How to Turn Yourself into a High-Value Man in 7 Crucial Steps And Live The Best Life You Can

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In a world where a generation is being taught that they can have everything their heart desires, it’s not uncommon to come across obnoxious people who feel entitled to the best things in life without a clue in the world as to how to get them.

Helicopter parenting has produced a culture where young people are too used to others doing the important things for them. Of course, when they are let loose in the ‘real’ world, these same people have to face the harsh reality that there are certain self-honed skills needed to live a moderately successful life. Very soon, we all must wake up to the realisation that the world owes us nothing, and rarely will it simply hand us anything on a silver platter

Now there are always curveballs in life, but how we deal with them is a mark of the quality of the person we are. In this article, we shall explore the qualities and traits needed to live life as a high-value man or woman. So, let’s put away our past perceptions, put on our big-boy trousers, plot our course to a higher quality of existence, and adopt a few high-value man traits.

What is a High-Value Man?

While perfection is an impossible goal, a high-value man is someone who sets high goals and seeks to better themselves as much as possible. A high-value man sees life from a different perspective and adopts a mindset that raises them above the negative doldrums of life and away from complacency. They hold onto the hope of betterment with all of their strength. While we could write a book on self-betterment (and many have), there are certain qualities and perspectives that are common amidst all the self-help literature out there. We explore them briefly in the list below.

1. Establish Your Purpose

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The purpose is fuel for life. It is the starting point on your voyage to becoming a high-value man who ultimately leads a quality existence. In this generation, there is a high prevalence of anxiety and depression. Much (not all) of it can be attributed to a loss of purpose in life. If you have no goals or purpose, your existence is bound to resemble a circle where you experience the same old monotonous things year after year. And that, dear friends, is a motivation killer.

“Activity without purpose is the drain of your life”

-Tony Robbins-

Setting a purpose and goal provides a linear objective. It helps you plan a course and trajectory. You are bound to find fewer repetitive cycles in life and are more likely to uncover valuable avenues along the way. Here’s a free tip… Often your purpose is tied to your passion.

2. Learn to Communicate


Now, we are not advocating that you become a public speaker. However, being able to communicate with people is a vital step forward in your pursuit of becoming a high-value man. So often, our teams fall apart because we don’t know how to relate to people properly. Learn how to communicate both verbally and via text so that no one gets the wrong impression of you.

“Communication works for those who work at it”

-John Powell-

This may be a skill that you need to refine, however, it’s a vital trait needed for you to succeed in life. Unfortunately, we do not live life alone. This means that we need to be able to communicate with others in an efficient and productive manner.

3. Dealing With Circumstances

Time for plan B

Dealing with negative and positive circumstances is an art form that you will need to refine to the best of your ability if you want to learn how to be a high-value man. It may be time to adopt some stoic philosophy into your outlook on life. Stoics are unmoved by negativity and will find the positive in most things. Now, it might sound very cliché, but seizing the day is really is a quality worth learning.

“There is no failure, you either win or you learn”


If plan A is not working, re-adjust, take what you have learned, and move on with a positive mindset. Failure is just another tick box on your road to success. Learning what not to do is as valuable as learning what to do. A high-value man will always seek to be optimistic in each circumstance.

4. The High-Value Man Alpha Mindset

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Hey, it’s great when the underdog comes out on top, but what does that really mean? It means that he/she fought and ultimately became an alpha dog. It’s an alpha male mindset that sets you apart from men and women with mediocre values. High-value men should expect more, push more, and be more determined. They are not followers, but pioneers whom others will choose to follow. Want to know if you are an alpha? Ask yourself: Are others looking to me for guidance?

“Action is what makes you an alpha male. Talk is cheap”

-Asad Meah-

Alphas are resilient and consistent. They have the drive to become the best versions of themselves. But let’s not forget the other qualities we have learned in this article when it comes to the alpha drive. Don’t trample others to get to the top. Being a high-value man means that you must be of high value to everyone around you as well, including the weak. Good alphas (like alpha wolves) lead from behind and shepherd the people in their circles. They do not charge ahead and forget people behind.

5. Relationships With the Right People


This comes around over again and again in life. You become like those who you associate yourself with. If you want to learn how to act like a high-value man, be fussy about who you build relationships with. Seek out other men and women of high value and pursue friendships and working relationships with these people.

“Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher”

-Oprah Winfrey-

I also love what Seneca has to say, Associate with people who are likely to improve you. Welcome those whom you are capable of improving. The process is a mutual one. People learn as they teach. A high-value man does not hog the secrets of life to himself but seeks to make the world a better place one person at a time.

6. Resources

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A high-value man or woman needs adequate resources to see to his/her responsibilities and to fund and direct themselves towards their purpose. While some people’s passions require less money to achieve, there are still valuable resources needed to get to where you are going. Make sure you have a plan and a strategy in place to secure them.

“Resources Follow Vision”

-Andy Stanley-

According to James T. Walsh, it is our responsibility to make sure that whatever limited resources we might have, are spent effectively to achieve our mission. Please remember that there is a difference between a high-value man and a rich man. While the former can be the latter, the makings of a high-value man transcend our material wealth. It has more to do with how fulfilled we feel in life.

7. Leading a Healthy Lifestyle

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We have left one of the most practical and easy-to-grasp steps for living the high life till the end. Looking after your body is the foremost quality of a high-value man and woman. If you are getting a balanced and healthy diet, getting good sleep, and getting enough exercise and exposure to the freedom of the outdoors (away from the mundane), you are more likely to succeed in every other step in this article. It is a foundation principle upon which all else is built.

“A life without health is like a river without water”

-Maxime Legace-

Healthy living is the ‘reset’ that our minds need in order to cope with the challenges that lie ahead. Simply test it yourself. Go to bed late one night and early another and see which proceeding day is most productive. Exercise for a week and see if your mood does not improve. Those good endorphins drive your body towards positive changes and success.

Our Conclusion

High value is a relative subject. The type of high-value man you want to become may depend entirely upon your specific purpose and path. As long as you are striving for the betterment of yourself and others around you, you are in the right headspace. Simple start with these 7 principles to take yourself to the next level.


Sean van der Merwe

Sean is a senior writer at PokCas. He is an Entertainment, Gaming & Cryptocurrency News Reporter. He has more than 5 years of full-time writing experience.